The Only Thing You Can Control: Yourself – Reclaim Your Spiritual Harmony

On this wild playground called Earth, there is only one thing that we can truly control: ourselves. Knowing this – understanding it and navigating the weight of it – is essential for a deeper sense of peace and inner harmony.

I discussed this very briefly from a philosophical perspective in an earlier blog post, but now I feel compelled to approach this topic spiritually in more depth to offer you a greater sense of empowerment and balance. The truth of the matter is that the most frequent thing I hear from others (clients, friends, family, etc.) is their disappointment in the world and the impact this has on their Alignment and understanding of their own path.

In Franklin D. Roosevelt’s inaugural address he said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” These words, said with the intent to help his people navigate the Great Depression, were most certainly a spiritual gem that highlighted that it’s not the challenges of life that are the obstacles that stand in our way; it’s our fear of them.

This is the fear that keeps us rooted in inaction, which keep us stewing in anger. This is the fear that keeps us trapped in lives that bring us no joy, and which lead us to gossiping about people that upset us. This is the fear that fuels narcissists, and the fear that feeds the depressed and anxious. This is the fear that keeps you trapped in the victim mentality, and the fear that leads you to project your own inner issues on the external world.

And the greatest truth you will ever learn is this: that fear is an illusion.

We create how that fear impacts us and manufacture the role and story it will play in our lives through this creation. When I emphasize to readers in my book that we are all manifestors and all have the power to manifest the lives we want, this is not an exaggeration—and this includes manifesting the things we don’t want in our lives. There is but one thing we can control to help navigate this: ourselves and our reaction to the world around us.

But the external world – with all its issues, with all the suffering it throws on our shoulders, with all the darkness that tries to drown us – is truly an illusion. Darkness and nefarious players know this and try to distract you by forcing you to play in their playground. They stir you up mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to force you to play their game. Your stillness is their greatest enemy.

And people play! It’s the reason why the perpetual victim continuously projects their victimhood into their reality. It’s the reason why those stuck in a dark abyss of emotional instability continue to ride the wave of their sadness and never seem to find a way out. It’s why those who want to be angry at the world will always find a reason – and a social media post – to help feed this hate and anger.

The fact of the matter is that we cannot control the world that others around us will build for themselves. We cannot control the chaos they pull into their lives. We cannot control how they navigate their relationship with us or how they try and make us feel. We can only control how we react to it.

We can make a statement—one that prioritizes our inner harmony and spiritual well-being—by telling them, This is your reality, and I will not be a stage player in your play. I will not allow the chaos you feed and thrive on to disturb my inner peace. I will not participate in your attempts to sabotage my spiritual centeredness. You are no actor in my life story. I actively manifest your removal from it, and my heart-centered stillness will not be disturbed by your games.

Their construction of their reality is your illusion.

Be grounded in the knowledge that this and they are all illusions in the grand scheme of things. At its Essence, it all comes down to the vibrational energy of Love—and ensuring that Love is continuously fed and nourished with stillness, peace, and joy is the greatest weapon against the illusion another tries to project into your reality and onto your timeline.

We can control our every reaction we have to their illusion. That is the one thing in life we can unequivocally control. No one, absolutely no one, has control over our emotional and mental reactions to the external world. Just you. Your inner flame – your connection to the Divine, your vibrational frequency of Love – cannot be disturbed by anyone or anything else unless you allow them in to do so.

This knowing, this prioritizing of spiritual peace and inner stillness and harmony, is what led me to create my newest service, the Soul Alignment Session. This is work I do with myself and on myself in order to find my peace and continue down my spiritual path with confidence and focus, grounded in the knowing that I control the reality I build for myself. No one else can project their reality onto my own. When someone tries to disturb me, they are only disturbing their own peace. And when I am burdened by the weight of the world, I need to analyze whether this is the weight of another that I have taken up and am carrying or whether this is mine that I need to unload and release into Love.

A Soul Blueprint is the map of our spirit’s journey through all its lifetimes, including the present one. Activation Points are places along this map where we have an opportunity to change the trajectory of our spiritual lives. They are the space where we can ensure we are hyper-focused on our growth and no longer allow external illusions to influence our subsequent steps. When I do a Soul Alignment Session for myself – or a client – I am clarifying that Essence of the soul to them and how to Align with the next steps in their path, free from the projected reality of others (knowing their life is the one that they only truly control). Being grounded in the knowing of your next steps and the guidance required to get there allows you to dissolve all other illusions standing in the way to Ascension.

An Energy Scan allows you to identify where in the body you are carrying the illusions and allows you the wisdom to understand what modalities and tools are needed – as clairaudiently presented to me by your Soul Team – to best help these blockages dissipate. In addition, I have been actively scribing light language – symbols or written characters that are channeled from a Higher Source or spiritual realm (such as another planet) – which are of a vibrational frequency that truly realigns you from a cellular level, clearing you of the disillusion that disturbs your peace and spiritual focus. It brings you to a place of inner stillness and back to that flame, protected in the knowing that no one can disturb or influence it without your active consent.

A Soul Alignment Session brings us back to a place of complete and utter control over how our life path unfolds, without the illusions projected at us that have kept us blocked or prevented us from moving forward confidently and with inner peace. A Soul Alignment Session brings your focus back to what matters: the Divine Essence of Love within you.

We may never know why people act the way they act. We may never know why people do the cruel things they do. But we can choose how this not knowing impacts us; will we allow it to consume us and direct the focus of our lives, or will we let that be their problem to deal with and simply control how it impacts our stillness? Acknowledge the Divine Essence of Love that exists within them – though they may have forgotten it or have been pulled too far from it to see its Light – and release them from your energetic field. Release them from impacting you.

The world is uncertain; the world is chaotic, but what about us? We can choose to participate in it, or we can stay centered in our inner knowing and prioritize our peace. That is the one thing we can control and the one thing worth our time and spiritual investment. If something in your life is not bringing you joy but is bringing you a burden, you can actively choose not to carry it and to prioritize your happiness. People – the world – only have so much control over you as you allow them to have.

Give them none of your peace.

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xx C