Non-Attachment Brings Peace: Learning to Flow With Life’s Changing Seasons

Blessings, beautiful souls,

The key to peace in your life is non-attachment to the stage you are in.

What do I mean by this?

A non-attachment is an understanding that there are no expectations as you move through life, as well as an understanding that this is just a moment within a grand line of moments – so there is no sadness when it passes, but also no frustration if you are caught in a difficult one.

Life moves in stages.

When I was in my 20s and nearing my Saturn Return, I was angry, embodied the anger of negative players, projected my anger onto the world to avoid healing my own trauma, and lived life on the extremes of the spectrum. I lived life feeling it owed me and was endlessly disappointed with the results. I thought life should look and feel a certain way and was depressed and anxious when it didn’t. I lived a life where I attempted to control the external more than cleaning, clearing, and healing the internal, and what that created was a world I didn’t like and didn’t want to be a part of or serve.

As I entered my 30s, I settled into the now-or-never stage and took risks I would have never been confident enough for – or ready for – prior. I dove into hard-healing work. I listened to the Universe with greater clarity and navigated my own life with greater discernment. I really got a look at what happiness means and how it differs from what was sold to me as happiness in my 20s. And I created roots.

I am deep in my motherhood stage as I sit in my late 30s. The motherhood stage is all-encompassing and exhausting. It requires all of me at all times of the day. My passions and interests are pushed to the side, and my battery is depleted. My husband gets the surface level of me, while my children dig deeper and deeper to uncover fossils of my Spirit that I didn’t even know were hiding below. I constantly sit in a space of wonder and overwhelm. I long for an introverted moment alone and yet don’t want to leave their sides, our souls woven together with a string of Divine connection. It is a complicated stage to be in.

But it, too, shall pass. While with my first, this requirement to put pause on all of me may have frustrated me, I have entered into these trenches with no expectation, no attachment to realities or outcomes, and the confidence to just let go and let God.

Life is infinitely more beautiful because I am able to surrender to it, to all waves and chapters and stages of it, without resisting what unfolds and challenging what I discover. The journey is so much more peaceful when I fall into the flow of it all and trust the shores I’ll be washed upon.

I write this close to Christmas time and know that my kids will never be this young at Christmas, again. I know these moments are fleeting and next year, at this time, is an entirely new experience. I know that while my littlest won’t hold onto these memories, I will. And my eldest is creating core memories in every magical moment.

It may be an overwhelming season as mama – like all mamas – organizes and plans and preps the magic of Christmas and Santa Claus, but that surrendering to this stage is absolutely worth the exhaustion. I know that even though I’m spread thin in this moment, 15 years from now I’ll be longing to relive it as I entered a quieter Christmas with more independent children.

This is just a moment, and it has its beauty and it’s wonder and it is fleeting. So I live in it, I become one with it, and I release any resistance to it. This exhaustion and overwhelm, too, shall pass, and so will my young children with it. Instead, I step into it and savour it and embrace every piece of it. Every single piece of it.

When you live life completely present in the current chapter, not anticipating or setting expectations for what awaits on the next page, not mourning the chapters you’ve already completed, your story is filled with serenity and a greater sense of solace in the plans of the Universe exists.

Peace and joy go hand-in-hand with surrender and the wisdom that every moment – every challenge, every celebration, every bump, every stumble – is just a blip on the timeline of this lifetime, and an even smaller blip on the timeline of our souls.

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xx C