Soul Contracts and Life Choices: Navigating Destiny with Free Will

Destiny, Free Will, and Primary Soulmates. Let’s dive in…

Destiny and Free Will are often difficult concepts for spiritual folks and the God-fearing population. In almost all religious communities, a cliche is thrown around quite frequently: God has a plan. I have just finished the book Journey of Souls, and it has helped confirm a position I have long held and shared with my clients.

Before we choose to incarnate on earth, our souls (our very essence) have an idea about the lessons they want to learn and the body and experiences it will take to get there. They are then given some options by more advanced souls on which earth bodies may meet these learning needs. Our souls scan the potential lives of these bodies, much like watching a film on a screen, and ultimately choose the human who will best allow them to achieve their plans and goals.

Yes, your body and present life were chosen with very specific intentions. Your body was literally preferred over another. Your essence could have resided in another body, and another soul could have chosen your present body. But your essence chose this body you have, right now, that’s reading this blog.

When you think of it in these terms, you really are able to have so little attachment to the body. It has triggered in me a weird who is that, really state of mind. In fact, even our soul has an attachment to some bodies while zero attachment to others who served a purpose in learning, but they didn’t really love. It made me wonder if my soul would like “Claudia” (the body) after all the learning is said and done. I don’t really have an attachment to me but maybe my soul does. I’ll only know when I cross that line.

My husband told me when we met that he had always said he would marry a foreign girl; he just knew it in his very being. In addition, he was always attracted to light eyes with dark hair and tattoos. This isn’t a coincidence; I’m not just “his type.” This was an agreement we made in the aether to make it easier to recognize one another in this incarnation. We are primary soulmates, and our meeting was important. But I’ll return to that later.

Everything we experience about this specific life – from parents to challenging upbringings to being in the adoption system or having a home with an absent father – is something we choose with intention. Newton, the author, asks his clients, “What aspect of your present-day understanding would you lack if you didn’t have that difficult experience?” It is so difficult to wrap our heads around choosing and accepting a life that has hardships and cruelty, but it’s all made clear in the aether.

When we are choosing a body, we can view how that life will progress along the line of its existence — But! We cannot see all potential future outcomes. This is where free will comes into play. It’s easiest to think of your life as a kind of Choose Your Own Adventure book; there is obviously the ideal ending of the book that we all wish to get, but sometimes it’s tempting to choose the wrong options just to see how the story will play out.

We all have our ideal life path – which is something I help clients uncover – but we are human and subject to human ego and physicality (temptations) so sometimes we end up down roads that weren’t planned for us.

Along the way through our existence, we can experience signs. Our attachment to signs and symbols and “messages from the Universe” are not just in vain; these are also intentional. Some signs are literally planned before your incarnation, like a necklace around someone’s neck capturing your attention and leading to you talking and bonding, or feeling a pull in a direction (like a city) that you can’t quite explain. These nudges are organized by you and your soul family before incarnation, where the hope is that this little “memory trigger” will lead you down the ideal life path. Of course, many people often miss these nudges, and that’s where free will comes into play. If we don’t listen how do we expect to end up where we truly belong?

Sometimes, these nudges or memory triggers can be rather loud, and this is usually from our guides when they feel we are about to miss a chance at learning what we had planned for our spirit. A perfect example of this is the dream I had before I decided it was now or never for my move to Paris. In fact, in the book, Newton discusses how the alteration of dreams and the implanting in our minds by those in the aether of something that feels really real is exactly for that intention.

If you’ve read my book, The Transformational Path, you’ll know that in my dream, I was living in Paris, but it wasn’t just a pipe dream; I was there. I felt it in my very being. And when I woke up in my Hamilton (Ontario, Canada) bed, I cried because I was just ripped from a reality I wanted more than anything. How could something feel so real and yet be evaporated within seconds? Well, that’s because it was real. It was an aether sign and reminder to, hey hey ho ho get back on track, lady! I had two choices after that dream: let that feeling of living in Paris fade into the abyss as I continued to find excuses for myself, or take the leap and start planning. The continuation of my most abundant life path (destiny) was in Paris, but I had the free will to settle.

Our primary soulmate is the word that Newton uses to describe a person we reincarnate with in many lifetimes and primarily as a love bond because of the balance, harmony, and growth you offer one another. The Divine Feminine to the Divine Masculine. With my clients, I use Divine Soulmate, and I always mention to them that there is one person who you’ll recognize as undeniably that person who is a clear sign that you’re headed in the right direction, but we can have perfectly content (or standard or even disappointing) lives with other soulmates as well.

In the book, a client shares an example while they are doing an overview of their past life: they could have settled for the person they were comfortable with from high school, or they could go against the advice of all his family and friends and move across the country — finding his primary soulmate (by chance) in the process. He took the leap, and he was able to view what life would have been like if he had not. And he knew it was her because of her laugh which he said sounded like chiming bells. This was something that they agreed to be a trigger in the aether together. Destiny versus Free Will. Whatever path we choose to walk, learning still happens, but there is often regret on reflection in the aether by souls who missed the chance to learn xyz this time around when they allowed their free will to dominate over the pulls of destiny.

I know it was my destiny to move to Paris because my Divine/Primary Soulmate is confirmation of that. He’s literal evidence that I took the right path and that the risk was part of my earth learning. Again, if you’ve read my book, I went through the realization that I was unhappy because I wasn’t truly living for myself. I was living the life I was told would make me happy, but it didn’t. And I was making choices afraid of disappointing others when I was just continually disappointing myself (you can read really old LifeOfCloud entries of mine to see evidence of this; I don’t even recognize who I was back then). I am sure this is a lesson I went through in many lifetimes before this. I also always knew it was my destiny to be a writer and to dedicate my life to healing, and choosing this part of my life path allowed me to make it a reality. It wouldn’t have been possible if I had settled for my unhappiness in Canada because it was the easier path.

Even as a child I felt a pull – a soul memory, a calling – for something more. I knew adventure awaited me around the riverbend and I’m not sure why. The philosophical messages in Disney movies spoke to me beyond my real understanding. But it’s just because my soul knew its greater purpose. Would I chose the smoothest course? Not this time around!

Source and the Divine don’t want us to suffer. Suffering is not our destiny. But suffering can be part of the journey we agreed to in order to reach our most abundant life. Fallen ego-learning is a human thing, and we agreed to experience humanness to the absolute fullest. This is because the more we learn in every lifetime, the closer we get to becoming fully realized and advanced spirits in the aether — and the closer that brings us to the energy of God/Source.

I was told by many gifted people that it was a struggle to get me into this life. I didn’t want to leave the aether. One medium even told me that one of my legs just wasn’t there because of how hesitant I was. But no one in the aether forces you to enter a timeline and experience what you are experiencing. This isn’t punishment. We choose this. My soul chose this. In the end, my soul recognized the learning that would benefit my essence by choosing this body and living this life, and I agree with my spirit. So much learning has happened, and so much beauty has been found through living this human life as well.

Gifted folks have told me that this will likely be my last life, but if I’m being honest with myself, I really doubt it. Maybe I’ll be back in a different capacity, maybe I’ll wait for hundreds or thousands of years and help from the aether before I make that leap, but I don’t think I’m done. The illumination I have had in just a week’s time about how trivial so much of what consumes us truly is will be wisdom I want to bring into another life and apply accordingly. And the lessons in forgiveness (and being forgiven) that I’ve learned as Claudia will make me a much better human in another round of human life. My desire to be better, to vibrate Higher, to get closer to Source/Creator/God and feel that all-encompassing love is too great.

But it would be my free will to enter into another body and do this adventure all over again – and planning the destiny of that new body with my soul family would be a part of that as well.

To learn about how to recognize the soul memories that lead you to your most abundant life, check out my book The Transformational Path, or to learn more about your Soul’s Life Path and finding your primary soulmate, check out my services through Seeking Celestial Grace and Awakened Little Souls.

xx C