Blessings, beautiful souls,
As I have mentioned in posts of ol’, forgiveness is a central theme for me in this lifetime. I also imagine it takes centre stage in the life of many of my readers. I believe it is a foundation that is central to living a spiritual life.
But forgiveness does not mean an abandonment of boundaries. In fact, I believe that the most Truthful form of forgiveness is one that embodies discernment, where a boundary is the Truth of the forgiveness in action. Abandoning a boundary as an aspect of forgiveness is self-abandonment, and living a life in Alignment with Christ Consciousness requires freeing yourself from the karmic entanglement that comes with releasing boundaries that stop old patterns from repeating themselves.
Peace is a spiritual state worth protecting.
Yeshua, himself, chose silence over engagement when interaction would distort his peace. He avoided conflict with crowds whose hearts he knew he would not be able to stir (“Jesus did not commit himself to them, because he knew all people.”). When one of his apostles betrayed him, he told him to do what he needed to do and let him leave (“Friend, do what you came to do.”). He loved fully and completely and forgave fully and completely, but without self-betrayal. He said, “Be wise as serpents and gentle as doves,” – hold people in a place of love, but be wise enough to keep your spirit safe in the process.
We usually take forgiveness to mean, “You did something really bad that damaged me. But I will be magnanimous and overlook the pain you caused.” This view keeps both the forgiver and the perpetrator in a psychic jail. It implies that the victim is small, powerless, and vulnerable to the indiscreet acts of a cruel individual. It also implies that one person has the power to determine another person’s experience.
The Mystical Messiah, pg. 108
You can forgive completely and love universally while also refusing access to your Self for all. This is forgiveness with discernment without illusion. It means you release the karmic bonds that have tied you and another person together, perhaps through lifetimes, but you do not hand over your inner life. As such, you determine how much access a person has to you and your expression of that inner life (how you live in the physical). True spirituality is not a tolerance of potential harm and this does not equate to closing your heart; it just mean you are choosing to not reopen a wound that has already taught you what you needed it to teach. You are saying, I release you with love, and I remain in my peace.
I am an eternal, powerful, invulnerable expression of God. I create my experience by the thoughts and attitudes I hold. You do not have the power to take away my happiness unless I give it to you. I now take back the power I gave you to hurt me. My true self is untouchable and safe. What you did seemed to hurt me only because I interpreted your actions as victimizing me. I no longer choose to see myself as a victim of your actions, or the actions of anyone. I am an independent, sovereign creator of my life. I now release you from the act I held against you. I set myself free, along with you, and I move on to a joyful and empowered life.
The Mystical Messiah, pg. 108
When you honour this Truth for yourself, you are not allowing any re-entry for dynamics that distort your peace. This, to me, is a true extension of love for the other person, not a lack of love or a lack of heart. Recreating dynamics that pull parties further from Ascension is cruel for everyone involved. Forgiveness with a boundary shows you do not wish the other harm, you do not want them to be tangled in the replaying of your wound, and you are encouraging them to be better and grow from the boundary.
You are not a volunteer classroom for their unhealed behaviour! You don’t deserve that, and that would be a betrayal to your spirit and all the work it has been doing in this lifetime. In turn, boundaries don’t mean you hold resentment. ““Resentment is like taking a spoonful of poison and then waiting for the other person to die.” Resentment hurts the resentor far more than the object of resentment.” (Cohen, pg. 110) A boundary is not a punishment; it is a freedom to both spirits entangled in the chaos of karma. Ignoring a pattern and dropping a boundary is not the kind of self-sacrifice that Source wants from us. Forgiveness is a state of the heart, and doesn’t automatically enable access to you and your spirit.
A boundary is not a withdrawal of love, but a withdrawal of illusion. Living in the Truth of Christ Consciousness does not ask us to bleed to prove our love. It asks us to stand so firmly in Truth so that love no longer requires a sacrifice of the Self. When forgiveness is complete, peace remains, and peace is the sign that the lesson has been integrated.
Before you abandon a boundary after forgiveness, feel into whether reentry into your life would distort the peace you worked so hard to achieve, ask if doing so requires you to leave your spiritual clarity behind, and question whether you’re betraying your inner Truth by reopening those doors.
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xx C
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