Transform Your Life with Forgiveness and Ho’oponopono: A Spiritual Path to Inner Peace

Let’s talk about forgiveness.

Forgiveness has been the central theme of my lifetime. It was clarified to me many moons ago by my spiritual advisor, Carol, at Akasha’s Den in Oakville, Ontario. She mentioned that going to Paris would really trigger this theme, and she was right, as a lot of healing and transformation came from following my path without reservation and trusting myself as I walked it. I believe that forgiveness is likely a central theme for many folks reading this blog, or perhaps is a crucial element to whatever focus they have for this soul incarnation. Forgiveness holds the energy of Love, which is the Source/God energy, and this is the complete opposite of our human fear/Ego. Forgiveness, essentially, brings us closer to God.

ho’oponopono

Ho’oponopono is a traditional Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness, deeply rooted in spiritual beliefs. It focuses on restoring harmony within oneself and others through repentance, forgiveness, gratitude, and Love – the Highest Frequency Energy. The process involves repeating the phrases, “I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you,” directed towards oneself or others to clear, cut, cancel, and release negative energies and memories that keep you tied to this individual. You release them with the energy of Source. I was first introduced to ho’oponopono by my soul sister and Reiki healer, Nataskia, after she did my first Reiki (ever) for me. (Aside: Nataskia is not in my soul group but is a more advanced soul who often incarnates as a sister figure in my lifetimes. We come from the same planet.)

In the context of past lives and reincarnation, Ho’oponopono can be a tool for healing karmic ties and unresolved issues that transcend lifetimes. By acknowledging and releasing negative patterns and memories, you can master spiritual growth, breaking cycles of karma in the process. Moreover, the practice of Ho’oponopono can be used for absolutely any and every transgression you’ve faced with another human – which is simply a soul, an essence of God, stuck in a complex and low-energy human body. Through Ho’oponopono, you can address these deep-rooted issues, foster a sense of inner peace and spiritual evolution, and ultimately contribute to the resolution and clearing of past and present life struggle. This ultimately leads to a more harmonious present and future for your spirit.

How do you use Ho’oponopono to forgive others?

Ho’oponopono isn’t just for asking for forgiveness. It can be used to forgive but it’s a little difficult to wrap your head around when reading the sentence, alone. As such, let me break it down for you.

• I’m sorry: Recognize the pain you are experiencing and acknowledge that you have been holding onto the hurt.
  
  
• Please forgive me: Ask for forgiveness for any negative energy or resentment you’ve held onto. This is about cleansing your own spirit and not necessarily about their forgiveness.
  
  
• Thank you: Express gratitude for the lessons learned and the opportunity to grow through this experience, because that’s why we agreed to have this person in your lives. A thank you is a I forgive you. This helps shift your perspective from pain to growth.
  
  
• I love you: Send love and healing to both yourself and the person involved. This promotes emotional, spiritual, and mental release and closure.

forgiveness does not require understanding

We don’t need to understand someone to forgive them. In fact, in most cases, we won’t understand a lot of their reasoning or the reality they’ve constructed that has led them to be the way they are and act the way they do. That’s not ours to understand; figuring it all out will not change how they project their trauma and construct their world. This human need to understand – to control – can, more often than not, be a roadblock to forgiveness.

In most cases, people will make excuses for their behaviour. It is human (ego) nature to try and justify why they hurt you to protect themselves. You can forgive someone without accepting their excuses, and do not assume that forgiving them is ammo for future justification for their wrongdoings. Forgiveness (the Love energy) will enter their heart and force them soul reflection on their behaviour. And, if not in this lifetime, than most definitely in the aether when they do a life review (and, trust me, their teachers won’t go easy on them).

Forgiveness is about freeing yourself from the burden of resentment and anger. It doesn’t mean you condone or accept the hurtful actions of others. Instead, it allows you to let go of the emotional, mental, or spiritual hold those actions and behaviours have on you, promoting your own healing and peace of spirit/mind. By forgiving, you acknowledge the pain, but choose to move forward without letting it define you.

forgiveness does not mean abandoning boundaries

Maintaining boundaries is essential even after forgiving someone because it honors your spiritual integrity and personal growth. While forgiveness is an act of releasing negative energy and promoting inner peace, boundaries are the sacred spaces that protect your spiritual essence. They ensure that your energy remains harmonious following forgiveness and that your soul’s lessons and needs are respected. By setting and maintaining boundaries, you communicate to the Universe and yourself that you are worthy of respect and love. This forgiveness practice allows you to feel as though you can continue to grow, heal, and evolve without the recurrence of past harms.

Balancing forgiveness with boundaries helps you stay aligned with your Higher Self and maintain your spiritual well-being. There are many I forgive and release forever. There are few familiar souls who I forgive and (would) welcome back with open arms; love for them transcends the need for boundaries.

I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

So, how have I applied this to my current lifetime and the many people I’ve crossed in the process? Let me tell you, and perhaps it will inspire you in the process of sharing it.

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forgiveness to myself for self-sabotage

In my youth, self-sabotage was my closest friend and ally. I viewed self-sabotage as a way of protecting myself from anything good. I ran from good people and good situations and hurt them in the process because I did not believe I was worthy of the love they extended to me. It was unfamiliar, forcing me to look in the mirror and acknowledge where I was less than, and I suppose I resented them for that. It was easier to run than to be honest about the fear (Ego) I was holding in my heart. It was easier to avoid confrontation, saving myself in the process (cowardliness) than to open myself up to the other. I cannot rewrite the past and make up for lost time. To those I’ve hurt through my self-sabotage, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

forgiveness to those who took advantage of my kindness

I am a kind person, often offering strangers more grace and acceptance than they might deserve. People call me naïve and to approach others with greater walls and protection, but it’s just not my style. I’d rather trust people first than make them have to work up to that trust. If you disappoint me in that process, that’s where my fool me once, shame on me, fool me twice, shame on you boundary sets in — something I did not do in the past but hold firmly to now. Because, as expected, people take advantage of my kindness, often asking more when I already give so much. It is hurtful when it gets to that point. So, to people who take advantage of my kindness, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

forgiveness for narcissists

I have encountered many a narcissist in my life. In fact, some I am unable to escape due to certain circumstances keeping them in my life loop. Narcissists truly believe they are the perpetual victim in life. All the world is out to get them because they are perfect They will tell everyone about how awful you are, failing to acknowledge how awful they’ve been to you (when everyone seems to be saying the same thing about you, perhaps some introspection would be beneficial, no?). And they all come in with the same M-O; they love-bomb you, make you feel valued, important, special — and then they resent you as being ungrateful when they flip the switch. I don’t want gifts and false words, I want honest kindness, but narcissists don’t know how to give that. Narcissists only know how to protect themselves and their internal insecurity by ruining the lives of others.

According to Newton’s book, Journey of Souls, narcissistic behaviour is repeated through numerous lifetimes because the souls of narcissists often come from soul groups who have come to be with the intention of unlearning this humanness. In their soul group, it’s almost like they validate one another for their narcissism; it’s quite odd. But, that’s essentially the insecurity of narcissists; they need endless validation from everyone in their lives.

I have set many boundaries with narcissists from my past. One of the narcissists I face in my life has been following me since the destruction of my planet, but they’re not one I can really escape in present day. They continue the same behaviour, life after life. That’s okay; their insecurity is not a reflection of me, and neither is the reality they’ve painted of me (or painted into the minds of others). Their narcissistic behaviour will never vanish and I never need to truly understand it. I don’t need to understand them. And I don’t need to condone or accept their behaviour. I just need to forgive them for it. Narcissists are just sad souls, so, to the narcissists in my life, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

forgiveness to myself for my people-pleasing

One of the most important lessons I learned in this lifetime is to follow what I believe will bring me happiness, and to not be a people pleaser. People pleasing, including apologizing for delayed replies to messages or sacrificing myself by offering people my energy when I am already depleted, to offering free clairaudient work when people “just have a question” or making a choice that I know would make others happy but make me unhappy, have all been things I’ve been learning to work through and forgive myself for. So much of my youth was lived according to “what was expected of me” and so many of my choices were made out of fear of making other people unhappy and not because it would bring me joy. So, to myself and to those I allowed to define me, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

forgiveness to those who abandoned me

Abandonment is nothing new in my life. It’s something I have had to learn through friendships and relationships many times over. I often give all of myself to someone only to receive fragments of energy back. I have had friends outright exclude me because they didn’t like that I didn’t say yes enough. I’ve had friends abandon me over the rumors of others. I’ve had friends I loved and wanted to see succeed who would rather I fall than grow if it meant they would lose me. I’ve had relationships where I constantly gave and never received.

I have trusted people blindly only to have them break that trust and desert me emotionally in the process. I am also a mirror for people and this often leads to a “switch” of wanting to isolate, insult, destroy, or run from me. It’s all nothing new. Despite endless abandonment in my life, I haven’t formed abandonment issues. I still offer people the benefit of the doubt and enter friendships without hesitation or caution.

People abandoning me is not a reflection of me, it’s a reflection of their own trauma, unhealing, or projected reality. I know I’m not a bad person and I know I haven’t done wrong to deserve their abandonment, so this is not about me at all. As such, most abandonments do not impact me emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. 

Of course, there are some abandonments that are unexpected and those are quite intense to deal with. The sadness at these situations often manifest as anger. “How could they?” It is hard to navigate the hurt because it came from someone I honestly loved. But the release of these negative emotions are so freeing and when you hold people in a space of love, the resentment completely vanishes and you instead feel sympathy and empathy for the other. 

So, to those who have abandoned me, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

forgiveness for those who watch me

When I was younger, I required validation – as most young people do. I had potential and people missed it. I was essentially quite invisible even when begging to be seen, and it’s likely why I was drawn to singing on a stage. And now, as I’ve settled into my quiet invisibility and actually quite enjoy it, for some reason, I am getting noticed. 

Notice by people I dreamt would notice me as a child or a teen. Notice by people sitting in the shadows and watching my every move or following my every action without actually “following” me (on social media – I see you, by the way; you can say hello and I promise I don’t bite). People who watch me with resentment, judgment, envy, longing, curiosity. People who just watch in silence, for whatever strange reason they choose to watch. But it’s not energy I want projected towards me, whatever their reason for watching. And I’m sure they’ve watched me in many lifetimes.

So, to those who watch me, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

forgiveness for hurt

People hurt people. This is part of the experience that we want to immerse ourselves in as our souls choose to come to earth. It’s a reality you cannot escape. I have been hurt intentionally. I have been hurt unintentionally. I have hurt people intentionally. I have hurt people unintentionally. I have been groomed, betrayed, insulted, abused, assaulted, lied to, lied about, transgressed, and more. In this lifetime, in many lifetimes. Holding onto hurt is debilitating. There is no growth that happens when we stay stuck in the tar pit of hurt, whether it’s regret for hurting someone else, or resentment for the hurt done to you. Hurt doesn’t change the past, it only keeps you trapped in it. In any and all lifetimes.

So, for all the hurt by me or towards me, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

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As I reflect on the themes of forgiveness and healing that have shaped my spiritual journey, I realize how integral they are to all of our spiritual growth. The spiritual Ascension of the Collective depends upon forgiveness. Through forgiveness, we align ourselves with the energy of Love, the Source/God energy, transcending our human fears and Ego.

Forgiveness is not about condoning the actions of others or understanding their reasons. It’s about liberating ourselves from the emotional and spiritual burdens that hinder our Ascension and growth. By saying, “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you,” we engage in a profound act of self-care and release. We acknowledge the pain, seek to purify our hearts and spirits, express gratitude for the lessons learned, and send love to ourselves and others.

In sharing my experiences with Ho’oponopono and forgiveness, I hope to inspire you to embrace this in your own life. Whether it’s forgiving yourself for past mistakes or others for their transgressions, whether it’s in this life or one of the past, remember that forgiveness brings us closer to our true Higher Selves and the Divine. It’s a powerful tool for healing, growth, and ultimately, for living a life aligned with Source. My hope is that these words lead the Collective towards greater hope, understanding, and harmony.

Who will you forgive, today?

To learn more about the healing that transformed my life, check out my book The Transformational Path. If you need help with past life release or guidance on navigating spiritual forgiveness, check out my services through Seeking Celestial Grace and Awakened Little Souls.

xx C